The Myth of Doing It All: What I’ve Learned About Letting Go
There was a time I believed that being a “good mom” meant being everything: chef, cleaner, playdate planner, teacher, therapist, activity director… and looking presentable while doing it.
Spoiler: that version of motherhood isn’t sustainable — or real.
This week, I had a moment (okay, a meltdown) that reminded me of the most important lesson I’m still learning: you don’t have to do it all.
Where the Pressure Comes From
Instagram, Pinterest, strangers at Target — it can feel like everyone has it more together than we do. But behind every “highlight reel” is someone else’s pile of laundry or toddler tantrum.
I’ve started asking: Who told me I had to do everything?
Often, the answer is: me.
What I’m Choosing to Let Go Of
The dishes in the sink at bedtime.
The guilt when we have a screen-time day.
The need to plan every moment of the day.
The pressure to bounce back, show up, smile through it.
I’m learning that my worth doesn’t live in my productivity.
What I’m Holding Onto Instead
Laughter with my kids.
Connection with other moms.
Rest — when I can get it.
The freedom to say “that’s enough for today.”
Letting go has made room for something better: peace, presence, and permission to just be.
Let This Be Your Permission Slip
You’re not lazy. You’re not behind. You’re human — and you’re doing a beautiful job, even when the to-do list doesn’t get finished.
Let go of “doing it all” so you can hold onto what matters most.
💬 What are you letting go of this week? Share in the comments or tag me @NapTimeThoughts — we’re rewriting the rules of motherhood together.
